Joy embedded within our hearts

People spend hours, days, years, even the whole life seeking for meaning of happiness. What really makes them happy? Is it a new job? A new spouse? A new home? A new car? No matter what you fill in the blank with, the answer will always be no. Happiness is not about who you’re with or where you are or what you have. Can these add to your happiness? Yes they can. Can these things create your happiness? Never.

Happiness is about loving yourself while constantly changing to become a better you. This comes from deep inside your heart and soul. Outside circumstances may create difficulties or hardships, but true happiness prevails because you know that you will survive and move beyond this point in life. Not only will you survive, you will be a much wiser and stronger person for having gone through those specific circumstances.

The meaning of happiness is an elusive thing to those that do not understand it. One has to only look inside themselves, and not out in the world, to discover the joy that has been hiding all along within their hearts.

Joy is an state of an inner tranquility. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, money, possessions, power … … – but lack peace of mind, you can are far away from joy.

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“I’m a human being, not a human doing”

Before we start to talk about this topic, let’s clarify this one firstly: what defines human being?

I checked it up the dictionary, and that’s the answer I found as the following : Any individual of the genus Homo, especially a member of the species Homo sapiens. a person, especially as distinguished from other animals or as representing the human species

Secondly, what’s the difference between Human being and Human doing?

There are two ways we can function in this world. We can navigate using the spirit, or using the mind. The spirit, will put us into contact with soul expression and expansion, while the mind, will put us into contact with schemes and strategies.

Nowadays, the issue our society facing is that we are struggling so hard to measure up to other people’s demands and expectations, and we never have time to learn who we are, we rarely have the chance to be really ourselves. We are more human DOINGS rather than human BEINGS.

Taking it one step further, living through the mind is fear-based while living through the spirit is love-based.  Setting an intention for the life you want, and taking small steps towards it with love each day – are the most profound things you can do to tap into your being. It sounds simple. However, it takes courage and work. The mind loves to control; that is its job. But with control comes a domino effect of other hindrances, such as worry and fear, that end up blocking our vast potential.

The choice is always ours. If you feel you’ve done all you can do, yet feel there is more that can be attained, then let it go. It takes courage, faith, belief and trust to surrender. Attaining these traits requires training the mind. But when you do so, and live from being rather than doing, then you are actually living. You are moving towards Oneness with all that is. You are opening yourself up to the greatness that resides within you, waiting to be released. Our function is to know what we want, believe we can get it, surrender to the process and wait for the miracles to unfold.

Dog is not just for gift, but for life

I have always been a dog lover. It doesn’t matter what breed, what shape, what size, what colour, long fur or short fur, … I love them to the bits.

As matter in fact, I love all types of animals. In my own opinion, there is no difference between human beings and other animals. If there is one, then I guess it’s that animals, especially dogs, they never fake their love.

I have a dog, a German-shepherd, who came into our lives around seven years ago, since then he has stolen our hearts and changed everything in our lives.

As we all know, life was never easy. Every time when I felt a bit down or tired after a long day, he never failed to uplift my mood and made me feel a bit relaxed… right from the moment I came into the house.

Every time when I opened the door, he would jumped off the sofa, and quickly rush towards me, wagging his tail, shaking his head, running around in a circle, expressing a warm welcome to me. From that moment, all my exhausted feeling has bee distracted and drifted away. How wonderful it is to start a relaxing and cheerful family time from the moment your first step into your home.

写作训练小结

日子过得真快!为了多练一下我的中文写作水平,于是我鼓足勇气参加了一个朋友举办的为期一个月的写作训练营。转眼间,一个月的时间就要到了。在这期间,周一至周五,按要求每天都要完成一篇500 字以上的文章。开始的时候,由于时间紧凑,又久不谙习中文写作,所以,经常不知写些什么内容亦或从何下笔,文字的功底也显得很生疏。

后来,在这群可爱的朋友们的鼓励下,我终于坚持下来了。现在算下来,除了周末不算,竟然已经连续写作20天了,共写了20篇文章,这是第一次这么久有针对性的写作训练。唯一遗憾的是,因为旅居海外,而无法找到适合的国内网络平台发布自己的这些文章。然而,明天,就是这个写作训练群的最后一天了,一时之间,百感交集,竟不知说些什么。

这个群里的朋友们来自五湖四海、天涯各地,为了同一个爱好而聚到了一起,也算是有缘。首先,真的谢谢这个群的组织者JIAJIA小姐,因为她的号召,我们这十二位未曾谋面的朋友才有机会相遇,相识在个写作平台。

这十二位朋友每个人都有自己独特的地方,有的直爽,有的委婉,有的文采奕奕,有的博学多才,有的情深义长,有的成熟练达,有的贤淑得体,有的小鸟依人,有的心思缜密,有的粗旷豁达,有的温文尔雅,有的走南闯北,经历丰富,有的游历名川大山,尝尽各色美食,有的孜孜不倦潜心研习传统国学,并将其发扬光大……….

这群朋友中,有为人师长的, 有自己做生意的, 有为公司效力的, 有司法战线的,有为了自己的梦想上下求索的,有为了子女家庭,辛勤劳作的。 每一个人都在为着自己的生活,在拼搏着,努力着……….

他们中每一个人的生活都充满各种各样的人生故事,那样的真切而又感人。写作的内容也是涉及社会各个领域和生活的多个层面。通过这一个月的交流学习,仿佛打开了很多个窗户,让我了解到更多的生活层面和状态。真的非常感谢每一个人愿意分享自己的人生经历和故事。

而今,紧张忙碌的一个月写作训练就要结束了,忽而有种怅然若失,恋恋不舍的感觉,虽然,认识的时间不算很久,但却觉得似乎已经认识很久了。

人生真是充满了各种的不期而遇。很高兴,也很幸运能结识大家,让我们都好哈保重,继续为了我们各自的梦想和生活,努力、加油!!

Snoop回“家”了

忙里偷闲,趁着难得一现的阳光还没消失,我匆匆来到一家咖啡屋,点了一杯Latin,拿了一份当天的报纸,挑了了一个靠窗的角落,坐下,静静的、不受任何干扰的享受着这清晨难得的慵懒时光。(这几天,英国天气都不是很好,时常阴天、刮风、下雨,搞的人的心情也有些低迷不振。这就是为什么英国人总喜欢议论天气的缘故,因为岛国的天气总是变化无常,仿佛婴儿时期的情绪,阴晴难定。所以,一遇到阳光灿烂的天气,大家都喜欢到户外活动,尤其是夏天的时候。)

为了振奋一下精神,平时喝咖啡不喜欢放糖的我,今天决定放两小袋儿糖在里面。翻开报纸,目光游移在各种最近发生的新闻当中。(我通常不太喜欢关注太多的新闻,因为媒体为了获取最大的阅读量、收看率、或点击率,所报道的绝大多数新闻都是比较消极的或夸张的以搏人眼球。)突然,我的目光停留在一则关于狗狗的新闻。

文章的标题是:尽情的欢叫吧!— 一直被遗弃在路边的狗狗重获新家

文章讲述的是关于一只叫Snoop的牛头梗在去年圣诞节期间( 具体日期为十二月17日),连同它睡觉的垫子一起被它的主人无情的抛弃在路边。当它的主人开车驶离现场的时候,Snoop还在车子周围不断的排怀,使劲的摇着它的尾巴哀求它的主人可以带它一起离开…… 这个令人心碎的场面恰巧被附近的监控录像拍了下来。当这段录像被放上往后,引起了全世界无数人的悲愤。

成千上万的爱狗人士在观看了这段令人心酸的录像后,都纷纷表示愿意领养这只可爱又可怜的牛头梗,其中就包括与之同名的美国著名饶舌歌手Snoop Dogg。但最终,RSPCA(宠物援助、拯救、管理部门)决定让一位刚刚失去同样也是牛头梗的主人收养了它。当这只被遗弃的狗狗见到它的新主人时,一种相互吸引的关系很快就建立了起来。(对于遗弃Snoop的前狗主人的调查仍在继续进行当中。)

看完这段文章后,觉得心情舒畅很多。为可爱的Snoop终于找到了愿意爱它和照顾它的新主人而欣慰。相信它从此可以在一个温暖的家庭里,重新开始一段新的、充满快乐的生活!

树欲静,风不止

这两天,天气不是很好,阴天、风大、气温潮湿、时常飘着小雨,让人觉得有些阴冷。因为住的地方距离当地的一处公园很近,所以,透过窗户,便可以看见远处的一排排高大茂密的树林,也因风大而摇来晃去。仿佛在向过往的行人、车辆宣泄着各种不满的牢骚。

这些树木中,有杨树、松柏、橡树、还有一些其他的种类,我叫不上名字。从它们的高度和树干的粗壮程度,不难判断它们已经在那里站了很久很久了,不知经历了多少风霜雨雪等待……也一定目睹了很多世间的是是非非。乌黑浓密而又厚重的云层低低的笼罩在这片树林的上方,让人觉得格外压抑。

在风中摇曳的它们,或许是在倾诉着自己的过往经历,或许是在彼此交谈,互诉衷肠,亦或是在讲述着它们所看到或听到的芸芸众生的故事。

不知何时,原本浓密乌云散了许多,太阳迫不及待的从云层中爬了出来,煦暖的阳光很快洒满整片树林。看上去,很温暖,很舒服。 忽而,几只鸟儿掠过,落在枝头休息,顺便吟唱几声清脆明亮的歌声,使得原本摇头晃脑的一棵棵树木,纷纷定下身来静静地倾听,愣头愣脑的风儿也早已不知何处去了。

整幅画面在随着时间的流动而不断变化着,显得别有一番情趣。我本来因着阴天下雨的天气而变得有些低沉阴郁的心境,也不知何时逐渐明朗起来。 可能这就是大自然的魅力所在,所有的一切变化、规律尽在其中。

人法地,地法天,天法道,道法自然!

人间有味是清欢

“人间有味是清欢” 出自大文豪苏轼先生的《浣溪沙·细雨斜风作晓寒》。
原文如下:
细雨斜风作晓寒,淡烟疏柳媚晴滩。入淮清洛渐漫漫。
雪沫乳花浮午盏,蓼茸蒿笋试春盘。人间有味是清欢。

可偏偏这最后一句成了点睛之笔,为世人所津津乐道,想必定是引起了很多人都共鸣。
就我个人的感受而言,当我吃惯了各种山珍海味,大鱼大肉,美味珍馐,突然意识到一碗简单清淡的小米粥配上一碟萝卜小咸菜或是新鲜拌制的蔬菜沙拉,竟是如此爽口爽心。

另外,不可忽视的是,东坡先生在发此感慨时的人生背景。那时正是他官场不顺,人生落寞之际。当洗尽铅华之后,看透了命运的无常,荣华富贵也不过是过眼云烟罢了。但东坡先生并没有因此而消沉,这个不难从他这首词的字里行间所要表达的那份悠然自得意境中感受到。平静舒缓,安贫乐道,静静的体味人生真谛。

这句“人间有味是清欢”与他另外一首词《定风波》中的“此心安处是吾乡”有着异曲同工之妙。 都在某种程度上表达了笔者在经历了人生的起起浮浮,尝尽了世间的苦辣酸甜之后,所领悟到什么才是生命过程中最本真的东西,这是一种何等的境界和胸怀。